I love sailing. While I’m not qualified to cross the Atlantic, I have read some about navigation.
In navigation, before the advent of GPS (and still when the batteries die), a sailor had the skies to use.
In using the skies, there is one central component: the North Star. No matter where one is, locating the North Star allowed the sailor to orient where he or she was, and more importantly, where the boat was headed.
We all have a North Star for our relationships. However, there are some North Stars that allow for a more true orientation.